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On The Down Low
"We can keep it on the down low... Nobody has to know... Secret lovers is what you wanna be...
What is a guy to do in a situation like this? I feel there is something that I don't wanna miss."
-R Kelly Song Lyrics
Downlow (or "On the Downlow" or "DL") may refer to any (indecent or salacious) activity or relationship that is kept discreet or private. Generally, it may refer to any kind of covert hook-up, cheating, infidelity, extramarital affair, or covert encounter
The Down Low, like many terms and phrases in the American culture, can attribute their genesis to the Gay and Urban Black community, The, "DL" has evolved to be used universally to point to to activities conducted secretly and behind the scenes. The DL can also refer to behavior described as slick or deceptive.
The Term has truly evolved from being used to describe convert male gay behavior of a male Fronting (portraying himself), as a heterosexual and in relative is actually a closet Gay man to now refer to any behavior, action, or habit that can be described as secretive or deceptive.
Etymology
DL or “Down Low”, attributes its genesis from the Inner City Black and Sub Culture. The Ebony community was slow to accept the male lgbtq+ in their community and thus adopted the phrase, “Down Low” to mention to a man that is a closet queer or a man that engages in sexual relations with both male and female partners. The legal title evolved to identify such men as their female partners were discovering that their Man was subversively engaging in sexual relations with another man on the side, (on the DL) while their female partner was unaware of his behavior and sexual pre
A Sweaty Disco Haven Where (Almost) Anything Goes: Inside Glastonbury’s Legendary Gay Club NYC Downlow
If you locate yourself wandering around the southeast corner of Worthy Farm at Glastonbury this year, you may good happen upon an huge queue of festival goers, all sporting stick-on moustaches and, curiously, not much else. No need to be confused at this sight, for you hold found yourself at the ever-growing line for the NYC Downlow, Glastonbury’s very own purpose-built gay club.
Designed as a replica of a seedy Novel York bathhouse-cum-meatpacking warehouse circa 1982, the Downlow is a sweaty disco haven where almost anything goes. Despite existing for just five days a year, the club boasts such an esteemed reputation that it often causes swathes of people to sacrifice their chance of seeing bona-fide superstars such as Elton John or Coldplay conquer the Pyramid stage in the hope of beating the crowds to get a peek through its storied meat-curtained entrance.
Now in its 17th year, the Downlow – which has been described by nightlife bible Resident Advisor as “categorically one of the world’s optimal nightclubs” – has arrive a long way since its humble and muddy beginnings.
One of my friends came to me this week and told me one of those stories that make you shake you head in disappointment. My eighteen-year-old male friend (For Blog purposes we will call him Timothy) was approached and asked out on a date by an older man (We will call him Bernis). Bernis was in his mid-thirties and initially seemed to be a friendly person. After a couple weeks of interaction between the two of them Timothy realized Bernis was DownLow (which he understood to be problematic but Timothy did not brain dealing with that aspect.) Timothy stopped interacting with Bernis when he saw a picture of him at a Vacation detect with a woman and two kids. When Timothy asked him about the picture, Bernis came wipe and told him he had a wife and two kids.
When situations like this happen, usually both the gay and straight community criticize and judge the DownLow dude. In some sense I think those older men should be criticized, but I also think people need to understand why those men have concealed in the closet for so long and why they continue to drown in their infidelity with the same sex.
There are all types of DownLow men. I have talked to men on the DL who were “self-proclaimed”
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