Gay sex first time advice
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a protected and respectful way
To begin, I’d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to know that you can endeavor new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who desire to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the contrary of trans. We debate trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and suggestion about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are feeling
My(35M) first gay sexual life is coming up. What should I know?
February 5, 2020 11:10 PM Subscribe
Hello. I am a 35 year old cis man, and I've been only with women up to now. I've always considered myself enthusiastically hetero.
A year or so ago, I first experienced the pleasure of anal sex (i.e. having my butt being played with, penetrated with a finger etc) with my female partners.
Since then, I have been fantasising strongly about being penetrated by a real penis. I've begun experiencing some attraction towards men, and (for the first time) been aroused by gay porn. I really want to be fucked by a guy!
So long story short, I've met a kind, gentle gay guy who knows about this history of mine and is interested in entity my partner in this adventure. The big night is coming up soon. I'm really excited but really nervous! I perceive I should try to be spontaneous but I have so many questions! What are things I should be ke
Are you planning on existence a bottom for the first time but worried about being getting fucked? From douching to diet, these 11 butt-bangin' tips from Alex Hopkins will production you how to ready for anal sex. Lube at the ready!
Anal sex is a rite of passage for gay men. But getting your precious passage primed if you're a first-time bottom can be anxiety-inducing. Not least of all because many of us are still not taught about anal sex in school.
Consequently, we often hold to learn about how to have anal sex and bottoming in roundabout ways. Through what we hear. Or porn. And, many times, on the job itself.
First time bottom: the rookie mistakes
Impassioned but ill-prepared, when it comes to first-time bottoming, newbies naturally make mistakes. If we are feeling mega horny, we may aim and take a cock too quickly. With too minuscule lube. And perhaps too little attention to cleaning our nether regions.
Indeed, bottoming for the first time can be messy. And painful (who doesn’t recall that hideous, jabbing pain?) Sadly, these factors can put us off one of the most exquisite joys of gay life. But needlessly so. For these missteps are easily avoided by preparing for a
The ins and outs of safer, greater sex.
I’m scared of bottoming
Most gay men will reflect on bottoming at some period. However, the thought of doing it for the first time can be scary. Don’t let that put you off.
You may prefer to douche before bottoming, especially if indulging in deep arse engage like fisting or with large dicks/toys. Use plain, clean water, preferably at body temperature. Avoid using shower attachments - the water pressure can be dangerous. You can acquire douche bulbs online or from any good sex shop. Try not to go overboard and irritate the lining of your arse, as this can make you more vulnerable to STIs.
Get yourself relaxed with lots of foreplay like rimming or fingering. Some men do apply amyl nitrate (poppers) to relax the muscles around their arse but there are two major health warnings. Poppers:
- have been linked with an increased peril of HIV transmission
- don’t mix with erection drugs fond Viagra and may generate a heart attack.
Deep breathing is far safer, helps you to relax and relaxes the arse too.
Find a position that suits the size, angle and curvature of your partner’s dick. Any position where your knees are bent and drawn into your chest, w
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